BLOG NO.7 DAHILAN KUNG BAKIT HINDI MAGANDA ANG WALANG LABEL

 

BLOG NO.7

“REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD SAY NO TO A NO-LABEL RELATIONSHIP”

 

 

I am not a professional writer. I just wrote this to share my experience to you my readers why you should say NO to a no-label relationship.

 

No-Label Relationship is like something you have mutual feelings for each other. Iyong tipong parang kaya pero hindi. Parang magjowa kung umasta pero sa totoo walang label pala.

 

Usong-uso ngayon sa atin iyang no label-relationship that’s why I wrote this to advice you that you should say no to this kind of thing. Trust me, I spoke from experience.

 

I was been in a no-label relationship with a guy for about 3 months. In that short span of time, I learn my lessons. I would not dare enter again the same kind of relationship. What I’ve got in the end was only heartache. I was been having a hard time getting rid of my system. Countless cries? Sleepless nights? Name it, I experienced it.

 

We started to fast that even me before doubt if he’s feeling was real. I doubted at the start, but those doubts were gone because of his efforts, being caring, and his sweetness as well. I admit, I don’t want relationship at that time. When he proposed to me that kind of thing, like no relationship at all but I am his and he’s mine, just commitment with each other, I agreed. And now I think, I regretted why I say yes to that. I should have just rejected it.

 

Anyway, my story can be different from yours. Maybe your no-label relationship now can be labeled days, weeks or years after.

If you really love each other, it’s not about the label, it’s about your commitment with each other. If one failed to do that, expect to get hurt in the end.

And if your personality is like mine that doesn’t want only to play, like you are always serious whatever you enter, entering a no-label relationship is not good for you.

This kind of relationship is only fun from the start.  Once you get attached, you’ll be vulnerable to pain. You’re lucky if the guy you’ve been with is really head over heels with you but what if he’s like mine? Who’s only good from the start?

 

Iyong ganitong relasiyon kasi para lang to sa mga taong mahilig maglaro. Iyong mga taong kayang isantabi ang feelings. Like no feelings involve at all pero if ikaw hindi ka ganyan, huwag mo ng subukan. Masasaktan ka sa huli.

Iilan lang ‘to sa mga mararanasan mo kapag nasa isang no-label relationship ka,

-Pwede kang magselos, pero di ka pwedeng magalit

            Oo, hindi lang naman ikaw ang taong nag-eexist sa buhay niya. May mga kausapan talaga iyang iba. Kung ikaw nagiging seryoso na, tiyak magseselos ka. At kapag nagselos ka, ibig sabihin, nasasaktan ka. Dito mo mararamdaman na ang sarap niyang sigawan, ang sarap makipag-away pero ang tanong, anong karapan mong gawin iyon kung unang-una wala kayong label? 

Anyway, kahit wala kayong label, kung talagang totoo sa iyo ‘yan, hindi naman yan gagawa ng mga bagay na ikakaselos mo. Kung may ginagawa siyang nasasaktan ka, iyong tipong paulit-ulit nalang niyang ginagawa sa ‘yo, huwag mo ng ipagpatuloy pa kung anong meron kayo. Talo ka sa huli.

 

-Pwedeng magchat, call, at text sa kanya pero bawal magdemand ng reply

            Once na nagtatagal na kayo, na-aatached ka na sa presensiya niya. Iyong tipong kulang na ang araw mo kapag walang kang natanggap na mensahe mula sa kanya. Iyong ang bagal-bagal ng oras. Panay check ka na lang sa phone mo kung my reply ba. Swerte ka kung mayroon pero paano kung wala? Di ka pwedeng mamilit sa kanya dahil unang-una jowa ka ba? Kung hindi matibay loob mo, huwag mo na talagang subukan, ikaw lang mahihirapan sa huli.

 

-Bawal magalit kapag nagkajowa ng iba

            Di dahil nagkakamabutihan kayo, ibig sabihin gusto ka ng jowain. May iba diyan o di kaya karamihan, ginagamit ka lang pampalipas oras habang hinihintay iyong taong talagang gusto nila. Kapag nasa isang no-label relationship ka, once na magiging cold iyang partner mo, kawawa ka.

 

I am really not advising you to be involve in this kind of thing. There is only a low probability na magkaka-label kayo. Kadalasan, ghosting ang ending nito. Aalis ng hindi nagpapaalam. You deserve to be someone’s choice alone and not just a temporary option.

Believe me, I regret what I’ve did. If I could only turn back the time, I should not invested time and feelings for it. It will just bring you false hope in the end. Sa part ko, tatlong buwan lang iyon but it took me number of months to finally recover from the pain.

It can makes you question your worth. Paano mo naging deserve sa ginawa niya?

It can makes you think what is lacking in you. Ano ang kulang sa iyo bakit hindi nalang ikaw, bakit iba pa?

 

Alam ko naman na once darating ‘yan ang hirap pigilan ng nararamdaman natin. It makes us blind of the possible hurt we can get in the end. I am not saying na huwag kang makipag relasyon, just check the label para alam mo kung saan ka lulugar.

 

Have you been in a no-label relationship? Comment mo kung nagkatuluyan kayo o hindi.